Can platonic friendship really exist?
The general notion of platonic friendship is an intimacy of friendship between a man and a woman which has no element of sex in it, BUT which is nearly as warm as love! So to put it simply, a platonic relationship is a close friendship between a man and women marked by the absence of romance or sex.
They are suppose to enjoy each other's conversation and mental tastes, but they are not supposed to give each other thrills! and each is free to love someone else. They are sufficiently interested in one another, but the element of love, or physical attraction is not there.
But there's always a problem.
What's the problem?
Here's the problem. For a good portion of us, attraction to the opposite sex is genetically “hardwired” into our psyche. There’s no way to avoid it. We find the physical form of the opposite sex attractive, the opposite sex exudes pheromones that we find attractive, even something as simple of the timbre of the voice of a member of the opposite can trigger a romantic response in us. That's why some people fall in love even if they never seen other before.
Add to that the fact that nothing makes a romantic relationship more successful then when the people involved are “friends first”, and it’s easy to see why platonic relationships can be difficult to keep strictly platonic.
But are they possible in the first place? Look around your own circle of acquaintances, you will discover many platonic relationships that are actually there.
But then again, many platonic relationships do not work well. When romantic feelings spring up in both parties, the friendship turns into a romantic relationship. But a good portion of the time only one of the friends becomes attracted to the other, and then the platonic relationship is in trouble.
Anyone who has ever been in love with someone who does not share that feeling knows the pain and frustration that comes with that situation. If the friend whose feelings have shifted towards romance can suppress or ignore those feelings, the platonic friendship can continue on as before. But often times that’s not possible and as sad and painful as it, sometimes the friendship ends.
So, can platonic relationships work? Yes they can. Romantic feelings between the sexes don't always exist, thus leaving room for a very fulfilling and lasting friendship.
